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Celine C. Callahan, CA 9/24/2011

“Rich Gordon was extremely helpful as he really facilitated my ex-husband and I sort through our separation, preventing some of the stress associated with this very bad situation. It also prevented us to spend a lot more money that we would have if we had taken two separates lawyers. Rick was fair and never showed any preferences, making us agree on reasonable decisions that were pertaining to our situation.  The divorce papers were filed quickly. During this difficult period, Rich were sensitive and passionate as well, which helped me going through his difficult period”

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Free Advice with Divorce and Mediation

There are still so many people that do not know about mediation and why it is so much better than traditional divorce.  I receive many questions when people first reach out to me about divorce and mediation.  It’s a tough time and there are so many things to consider, so much to learn about why mediation is better and many times people are either nervous, upset or depressed (or all of the above).

Primarily my role as a mediator is to listen to concerns, understand the situation, talk about differences between traditional divorce methods and the mediation process and set up a meeting for the couple to come in to see me in my office.  I provide a neutral safe setting and do not take the side of either party. My job is to listen to what the people are actually saying. When people come to mediation they have their own agenda. They hear what they hear, they do not hear the other parties’ contribution at all. My job is to be the interpreter, the person that hears what each side is saying, and relates it in a way that the second party will understand. Then they can make decisions about how best to come to a resolution.

If you’re reading this because you want to work things out with your partner or you are set on separating and want to make it as easy of a process as possible, I am here to listen and answer your questions and evaluate your circumstances for free.  I’ve been helping couples for close to 20 years now and have helped people work through so many difficult situations.  Please call me directly or click here to fill out our free evaluation and I will call you.

Best to you,

Richard Gordon, B.A., M.A. & J.D.

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” ~ Unknown

When choosing a Mediator, think of the bond you seek with a doctor or a therapist.  There needs to be trust, expertise on behalf of the professional, and above all, you need to like that person, especially if they are going to get to know you in such a personal way.

Qualifications and expertise need to be accounted for first and then there needs to be an evaluation of interpersonal skills.  You need to determine if this is a person you can bond with. Everyone has their own way in which they expect people to act, how they expect to be treated, what they expect of another person’s morals and values and of course how they expect to do business.

When choosing your Mediator, do your homework and call a couple people.  Talk to them in person or over the phone.  Look for someone that possesses the following: emotional stability and maturity, integrity, neutrality, and sensitivity.

A great Mediator possesses the ability to listen, to clarify issues, to educate his or her clients, to be sensitive, and most of all, to be fair.

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