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Remember when Katy Perry and Russell Brand got married?  It was funny, sexy-cute girl meets funny-fanatical guy.  Their union took many by surprise and people everywhere began to fall in love with the idea of them as a couple, a very different couple.  Both equally admired by many everywhere, their marriage didn’t last very long, but when many thought their divorce might take a turn for the worst, they handled it fairly well and in a very short time.

Katy Perry and Russell Brand - Amicably Split!

Only 40 days and Katy and Russell were officially divorced.  How did they do it?  Many can learn from their very grown-up approach to splitting up.  The key to separating quickly, if two people are lucky enough to not be in a very upsetting and troubling situation is to take notes from Perry vs. Brand:

• They did not have a pre-nupital agreement
• They did not seek out high-profile attorneys to represent them
• They did not ridicule each other in public or in the media
• They worked out their divorce settlement together, resolving all of the financial terms of their marriage and separation
• Brand was entitled to 50% of Katy’s $44 Million in earnings, but he did not exercise his community rights

Given that their separation was as drama-free as it can be in Hollywood and among the L.A. crowd, we think they had many private conversations and sought the guidance of a mediator.  It’s not often that you see a high-profile break up like this go so well, especially when millions of dollars are at stake, but no matter what the situation, mediation can always help to make the transition much easier than traditional divorce.

We wish the best for Ms. Perry and Mr. Brand - keep the great music and movies coming!

Celine C. Callahan, CA 9/24/2011

“Rich Gordon was extremely helpful as he really facilitated my ex-husband and I sort through our separation, preventing some of the stress associated with this very bad situation. It also prevented us to spend a lot more money that we would have if we had taken two separates lawyers. Rick was fair and never showed any preferences, making us agree on reasonable decisions that were pertaining to our situation.  The divorce papers were filed quickly. During this difficult period, Rich were sensitive and passionate as well, which helped me going through his difficult period”

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Free Advice with Divorce and Mediation

There are still so many people that do not know about mediation and why it is so much better than traditional divorce.  I receive many questions when people first reach out to me about divorce and mediation.  It’s a tough time and there are so many things to consider, so much to learn about why mediation is better and many times people are either nervous, upset or depressed (or all of the above).

Primarily my role as a mediator is to listen to concerns, understand the situation, talk about differences between traditional divorce methods and the mediation process and set up a meeting for the couple to come in to see me in my office.  I provide a neutral safe setting and do not take the side of either party. My job is to listen to what the people are actually saying. When people come to mediation they have their own agenda. They hear what they hear, they do not hear the other parties’ contribution at all. My job is to be the interpreter, the person that hears what each side is saying, and relates it in a way that the second party will understand. Then they can make decisions about how best to come to a resolution.

If you’re reading this because you want to work things out with your partner or you are set on separating and want to make it as easy of a process as possible, I am here to listen and answer your questions and evaluate your circumstances for free.  I’ve been helping couples for close to 20 years now and have helped people work through so many difficult situations.  Please call me directly or click here to fill out our free evaluation and I will call you.

Best to you,

Richard Gordon, B.A., M.A. & J.D.

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” ~ Unknown

A Fair Way Mediation Center, San Diego, California

A Fair Way Mediation Offers Free Webinars: “The Basics of Divorce”

A Fair Way Mediation Center of San Diego, CA will host free webinars and provide free online divorce advice, covering common issues with divorce and mediation as an alternative.

To register, please click on this link: http://bit.ly/v2l5Ds

San Diego, CA (December 18, 2011) – A Fair Way Mediation Center of San Diego, providing mediation services for more than 15 years, is conducting a series of free webinars on divorce to educate men and women and answer questions as they pertain to finances, insurance, children, and marital residence. Also covered is how mediation saves money and eases emotional strain for everyone involved. For those contemplating divorce, Rich Gordon’s webinars can show how mediation may provide help to make the decision and the process easier and less stressful.

Richard Gordon, B.A., M.A. & J.D., principal mediator at A Fair Way Mediation Center, will host the webinars and cover topics such as: child custody, marital residences, debts, personal property, support, life insurance, medical insurance, college tuition, taxes and more.

On January 17, 2012 the first webinar, “A Fair Way Mediation, The Basics of Divorce” will cover children, marital residence (owned), and marital residence (rented). When a couple looks to separate, some of the most common questions with regards to children are about understanding who the custodial parent will be and what the rights are of the non-custodial parent, as well as how major decisions will be made; decisions which usually affect the children’s health, education or welfare. With a marital residence, couples often want to know what disposition will be made of the home; will it be sold immediately, will one of the parties deed his or her interest to the other, or will one have rights to live in the home, and if so, for how long. Separating gets harder when parties have to agree on the sale of the house, who is responsible for any maintenance or major repairs, as well as who receives the capital gains associated with the sale. With the free webinar series from A Fair Way, Rich Gordon will delve deeper into these issues.

All attendees registered for “The Basics of Divorce Part 1” will receive advice and have the opportunity to ask questions during the webinar. For those who want to keep questions confidential, all attendees will receive a copy of the webinar by email, which will include Mr. Gordon’s email address where specific questions may be posed. Attendees will not be able to see the list of other participants so registrants stay anonymous.

Separating can be extremely troubling and fraught with emotion, as there are so many things to consider, discuss, and reach agreement on during the process. Traditional divorce using attorneys and judges not only costs thousands more, it’s emotionally straining on the couple and the children, often requiring court appearances, especially when matters cannot be settled calmly. Mediation offers help and counsel in a peaceful setting, for a more simple divorce.

A Fair Way Mediation Center’s “A Fair Way Mediation, The Basics of Divorce, Part 1” will provide free divorce advice on January 17, 2012 at 10:30 a.m. Pacific Standard Time This webinar is open to only 100 people so register today! To register, please click on this link: http://bit.ly/v2l5Ds then click “Register”. On the registration form, enter your information and then click “Submit”. Once the host approves your registration, you will receive a confirmation email message with instructions on how to join the event. Please also find us on Twitter and Facebook for mediation and personal wellness facts, tips and resources.

About:

A Fair Way Mediation Center of San Diego has been helping San Diego couples through divorce for more than 15 years, enabling them to avoid large legal fees and complex courtroom procedures via mediation. The principal mediator at A Fair Way Mediation Center of San Diego is Richard Gordon, B.A., M.A. & J.D.. Mr. Gordon is a highly trained mediator. In addition to mediating divorces, he has served as a mediator, arbitrator, consensus builder, trainer and consultant to individuals, corporations, foundations and public organizations. He has helped numerous people and organizations throughout San Diego to settle their differences through mediation. For more information and to complete a free evaluation, please got to www.AFairWay.com

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