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Remember when Katy Perry and Russell Brand got married?  It was funny, sexy-cute girl meets funny-fanatical guy.  Their union took many by surprise and people everywhere began to fall in love with the idea of them as a couple, a very different couple.  Both equally admired by many everywhere, their marriage didn’t last very long, but when many thought their divorce might take a turn for the worst, they handled it fairly well and in a very short time.

Katy Perry and Russell Brand - Amicably Split!

Only 40 days and Katy and Russell were officially divorced.  How did they do it?  Many can learn from their very grown-up approach to splitting up.  The key to separating quickly, if two people are lucky enough to not be in a very upsetting and troubling situation is to take notes from Perry vs. Brand:

• They did not have a pre-nupital agreement
• They did not seek out high-profile attorneys to represent them
• They did not ridicule each other in public or in the media
• They worked out their divorce settlement together, resolving all of the financial terms of their marriage and separation
• Brand was entitled to 50% of Katy’s $44 Million in earnings, but he did not exercise his community rights

Given that their separation was as drama-free as it can be in Hollywood and among the L.A. crowd, we think they had many private conversations and sought the guidance of a mediator.  It’s not often that you see a high-profile break up like this go so well, especially when millions of dollars are at stake, but no matter what the situation, mediation can always help to make the transition much easier than traditional divorce.

We wish the best for Ms. Perry and Mr. Brand - keep the great music and movies coming!

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Free Advice with Divorce and Mediation

There are still so many people that do not know about mediation and why it is so much better than traditional divorce.  I receive many questions when people first reach out to me about divorce and mediation.  It’s a tough time and there are so many things to consider, so much to learn about why mediation is better and many times people are either nervous, upset or depressed (or all of the above).

Primarily my role as a mediator is to listen to concerns, understand the situation, talk about differences between traditional divorce methods and the mediation process and set up a meeting for the couple to come in to see me in my office.  I provide a neutral safe setting and do not take the side of either party. My job is to listen to what the people are actually saying. When people come to mediation they have their own agenda. They hear what they hear, they do not hear the other parties’ contribution at all. My job is to be the interpreter, the person that hears what each side is saying, and relates it in a way that the second party will understand. Then they can make decisions about how best to come to a resolution.

If you’re reading this because you want to work things out with your partner or you are set on separating and want to make it as easy of a process as possible, I am here to listen and answer your questions and evaluate your circumstances for free.  I’ve been helping couples for close to 20 years now and have helped people work through so many difficult situations.  Please call me directly or click here to fill out our free evaluation and I will call you.

Best to you,

Richard Gordon, B.A., M.A. & J.D.

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” ~ Unknown